On creating

You wake up.
The sun shines bright.
The sky is blue.
The birds are singing.
You’re ready for a new start, a new day, a new and exciting beginning.

or maybe…
You (unfortunately) open your eyes.
The rain pours.
The sky is grey.
Your alarm is screeching on that “danger!” setting.

Either way.
You created it.

The sunny day could also be too bright, too hot…the birds squawking.

The rain could be a gentle rhythm to accompany the hues of blues that further accompany the melodic jazz you prepped for you 7AM call time for today’s episode of your life.

Again, your creation.

Do you often find yourself stuck in a conversation of “Why can’t I get things to work?” “What does it take for me to get what I want?” “Why can’t I find what I need/want/deserve?”

You created that too.

You have a magical capacity to create whatever you want in your life.
Does that mean bubbles and rainbows and bunny rabbits every day and $1M in your mailbox this AM?

Well, honestly, yeah.

You don’t actually want that though.
You want the balance of life.
Light and dark.
Good and evil.
Happy and sad.
You want it all.
It wouldn’t exist for you if you didn’t.

Because you create your reality.

You either focus positively, create the ideas, plans, connections and actions to have what you create created.

Or, you don’t.

You created that laziness, disregard, upset and resignation too.

All you.

Own where you are and what’s what, right now, in your life.
Get that what you focus on, expands. That’s how powerful the energetic force of your thoughts are.
You’ll find relationships that prove your point of view is correct and others that will support your truth in agreeing with your experience.

So all those things that you SAY aren’t what you want – an empty wallet, a dominating lover, a friend who doesn’t care, a schedule that runs you….guess what…you’ve created them.
And then, you’ve gone to the length to strategize happenings that support their drama.

Because it’s safe.

You don’t have to transform your point of view to create a NEW existence.

I get it.
You don’t know what that would be like.
You’re ok how it is.
It’s just not AMAZING.

IT CAN BE.

Create it.

Create that there’s no such thing as your fear of heights and go sky diving.
Create that love is everlasting and meet an insanely awesome mate and commit.
Create that money is practically falling from the sky. You have to say “no” there’s so much coming at

you and then DO what it takes to land yourself on the line of fire next time the bank is makin it rain.

The only thing between these creations and what you’ve got going right now?

The shitty conversations, ideas, realities and stories you’ve created—they need to go.

Stop. Being. Right.

It’s not the way it is.

Be happy
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Kali moment of the month!!!!

Destroy. Destroy. Destroy.

Knock what’s in the way out of the park, burn it, explode it, sit and psychically visualize it’s dissipation into another dimension that just has nothing to do with your soul and your life.

Get that?

You’re the writer, the creator and then the actor and the liver of your life.

Please believe.

It’s all right there.
As I write this to you, I speak to me. We are all creating this together.

❤️, me

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Project: Love, Me on BlogTalkRadio!!

Join me Sunday February 22nd at 7pm on BlogTalkRadio!
Sign up and call in.
During first episode we’ll be discussing being (powerfully) vulnerable.

On feeling it all.

Fall in love with starting again.

Don’t let your fear of it ending, messing up, looking bad or being hurt keep you from starting.

If life was about the glory of success, we’d be content and stop when we had a successful experience.

Life’s about experiences. Period.
Experience deeply.

Wins/losses success/failures – no matter.
It’s the getting back up and starting again, no matter what, that has us truly living.

Be with how it feels when things don’t go your way.
Feel it.
Honor the lessons.
Look for the opportunities.
Every moment is a new chance.
Why waste a single second mulling over the chances you’re afraid to take?

Take them.

I have had quite a few experiences in my life where people I love and can often count on shrink back in fear. They watch me go for it, fail and then, I emotionally erupt.
I feel the pain.
I feel the anger.
I feel the injustice, the upset, the unfairness, the remorse.
I feel it all.

And HARD.

And then, I let it go.
There’s always those hangover moments or hours or occasionally days that I feel energy lost, a nap needed and sense of overwhelm. That’s the afterGLOW.
The sense of release.
That lull is a GREAT thing.
It’s the experience of the void of a space that was once filled with sticky icky stagnant life cracking open, completely empty, to be filled with whatever you want.

And it can be scary to others…even those that are often the most confident in your strength, when they watch you feel.

Feel anyway.

Give yourself permission to let it all out and let it all go.
When you “kinda sorta” feel or you claim not to be “a feeler” or you actually judge and STOP yourself from feeling, you cause a trauma.

Yep, it sticks to your ribs, your gut, the place deep inside your heart.
You snapshot those moments of release and make them saddened, weighted energy fields in your body.
You disconnect.
You build a wall.
You stop.

You gotta let it rip.

You gotta let yourself be an absolute fucking mess.

You gotta get that THAT is growth.

Does it mean you’ll learn to stop feeling so deeply?

Nope. Not at all.

And, you’ll learn to feel, release and return to equilibrium quickly.
Does this startle a “non-feeler” even more?
This shift from explosive and present to the pain (or the joy…all feelings…ALL OF THEM) to a resolution to status quo?

To someone who’s emotions are withheld and there are many fields of stuckness within, witnessing this type of expression is one of the most frightening things imaginable.

Keep it up.

You’re giving them permission. Permission to go past their own fear and feel.

They aren’t getting that permission anywhere else.

And being able to feel it all is the utmost expression of health.

So, come on —live a little.

Feel it. Share it. Release it.

And start again.

❤️, me

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On being easy

It’s a typical day in the neighborhood when we start off with the list of what’s to be done, where we need to be and how we need to show up. It’s when that list is accompanied by anxiety, judgement and worry that we self sabotage our way into a difficult day.
You’re up to something – say it’s big, say it’s small, define what that something is in whatever way that has you smile and let it be easy breezy.
The difficulties we face in this life are self created and/or co-created with the individuals we surround ourselves with.
Life really isn’t difficult.
Some days we need to bow out of the commitments we’ve made.
There’s nothing wrong with that.
There’s really nothing wrong with anything.
To start a conversation of failure or ridicule with yourself only adds to the difficulty and pushing yourself to be able when you just aren’t is a simple recipe for disaster.

Simplify.

Create days that have commitments to others and balance with commitments to yourself.

You only get this time, this body, this ability.
The more time you spend berating yourself for not being able or feeling fatigued and worn out, the less time you have to arrive and be the person you and others know yourself to be.
Let go of having to do anything.
Recreate yourself as someone who just does, is and makes it all easy.

❤️, me

Love looks…

Love looks like two hearts meeting accepting supporting and growing bigger and stronger and more alive in every passing moment.

Love looks like freely giving and opening up to a side of myself that was otherwise quiet and yearning to express itself.

Love looks like honoring myself and, therefrom, honoring another. It looks like allowing for another to be who they are. At times, walking the path of life side by side, a little ahead, and sometimes, a bit behind. Honoring love is accepting that eventually, each…even the deepest of encounters, moves its separate way.

It’s when we complete our walk with another that the paths split. We are never following. We are never leaving. We are, simply, moving.
There are encounters in love that can feel painful. They aren’t. They are merely stopping points for each to get a little more aware of what is me, what is you and what each wants to achieve, become, or settle into in this life.
Understanding and forgiving that a journey with one ends allows movement.
I say forgiving because the story we create as to why is never truly what happens. It’s just what we create as a happening so we can stand still and make ourselves stop for the fear of an unknown future.
Standing and waiting and carrying on for he or she of they to return, take your hand and guide you just isn’t what happens in this life.
We are all connected. That is certain. We are not, by choice and our inner fire, tied to being together.
So walk.
Move forward.
Learn.
Forgive and grow.
Each experience teaches us and lets us see that there’s not much more to life than traveling along.
Watch.
Experience.
Observe.
Learn.
There’s no stillness in the ever expanding universe. Move on to glide along in the flow.
Love openly, freely, faithfully and deeply. Begin with your ever traveling partner – yourself. Once you find it in yourself and honor your own heart, you can appreciate the travelers with, no matter how long or short your journeys together.

❤️, me

On letting go

As is to be expected, I’m going to just come out and say it:
There’s something there for you in every instance you say you aren’t enough.
Yep.
You get something from every judgement and story you have about yourself where you say you’re missing something.
If you’re not smart enough, you don’t have to share your knowledge. People don’t have to depend on you to show the way or be confident enough to share your input.
You get to side line it and relax.

Nope.
That’s not who you are.

If you’re not creative enough you get to be boring. You don’t have to show up and make rainbows on an otherwise drab canvas.
Somebody else will do it.

Nope.
That’s not who you are.

If you’re not attractive enough you don’t have to be noticed. You get to hide and make excuses about why things just don’t work out for you.

Things don’t work out because you refuse to let go.

You refuse to see that there is absolutely nothing about you that isn’t enough.

Enough is made up.

The only scale you’re measuring from is the one you’ve created for yourself. Sure, you base it on what people outside of you are saying. You base it on others’ scales, others’ opinions, others’ ideas that they made up too, to make up for where they aren’t enough.

Sounds like a pretty good space to create a dogma of what is supposed to be, doesn’t it?

No, it doesn’t.

When you let go of those judgments you have to face the fear of what you don’t see. You have to face who you ARE. You have to face the flood of requests, desires and expectations that come your way because you do nothing but show up and shine.

And you know what?

That’s just plain silly.
Because those requests, desires and expectations that show up can be declined. You don’t have to do a thing outside of you that isn’t true to the truest sense of yourself.
You don’t even have to bat an eye.

When you’re solid in your shoes and owning who you ARE, those requests, desires and expectations that brighten your light are absolutely EASY to rise to and fulfill. It’s all in a day’s work and a days work is kids stuff when you’re on your game and playing on the field.

So, I beg of you, ask yourself, is it really worth your time to spend a moment in a conversation of where you aren’t enough?

Let it go. Who you are saying you are isn’t YOU.

And, I promise, you’ll blow this version of you’s mind when you step up to what you’ll become.

❤️, me

On superpowers

Human beings are interwoven and interconnected at a cellular level. We are bonded in every experience and every moment. That connection is unbreakable and absolute. When things happen to others, they are happening to us. We can’t get away from how intertwined we are.
I’ve always known this and, I’m aware that I have a very special gift. In knowing and accepting that I am each and every other and each and every other is me, I’m hyper present to each person I encounter’s experience of life. From that presence I share all that is felt.

Today, I’m sharing my experience in this world as an highly sensitive empath.

An Empath is another term for clairsentient. An estimated 2-4% of the population is clairsentient and about 15-20% of those 2-4% are categorized a Highly Sensitive Person. Being clairsentient means that you are able to relate to how other people are feeling. Being a highly sensitive empath means you actually, physically and emotionally FEEL how others feel.

It is the human tendency, unless we do the work to shift perspective, to internally resonate at the frequency of our struggles, our hardship, and our pain, regret, disconnect and sadness. We internalize these negative feelings for fear of being rejected, abandoned or misunderstood. We believe that our connection to eachother can be broken and, if we express the negative, we will be alone.

I used to think I had a curse.

I’d find myself avoiding intimacy and putting up a powerful, impenetrable shield between myself and everyone I came in contact with. Not because I didn’t want to be with people, quite the opposite, in fact.

At an intuitive level I understood that it was necessary that I allow the connection I experience.
Without understanding my sensitivities, however, I hid to avoid how powerfully I felt human suffering.
At that time, I believed my experience of the world and people was torture. Everywhere I went, I felt everyone’s suffering. I felt the bruises of a beaten wife. I felt the insecurities of a man who fought off his sensitive nature. I felt the worry of a child working to understand school work and please her parents with good grades. I felt the depression of a person jobless and in deep debt. I felt the agony of a parent who’s child was a addict. I felt the loss of a woman who lost her husband.
And not just one at a time.
I felt all of it together, all day, all of the time.
I was so scared to feel that much suffering that I completely shut down.

It is clear that everything I have done in my life to this point has brought me to the place I am now. I was a professional performer, putting on a show in front of large audiences for years. In every one of those performances, I got the opportunity to give an audience pleasure. In every one of those moments they got to suspend their pain and enjoy themselves.
In every one of those moments, I got a break. I got to take deep breathes, release my shield and experience their happiness.

I chose to move to New York City in the summer of 2006.
I didn’t know it then, but that was when I chose to be who I truly am.
A person as sensitive as I am on mass transit is absolute insanity if this gift isn’t channeled.
Over the course of the next few years I became increasingly depressed. I cried myself to sleep every night. I had several episodes of blackout on the subway and I developed a very severe eating disorder.
I was unable to shield anymore. I had placed myself in an environment where I came in contact with thousands of people and innumerable feelings, all at once, EVERY day. I was allowing pain and suffering to strangle me, weaken my heart and make me want my time here on earth to be over and done with.
And the overwhelming feeling I felt (that was actually my own) was loneliness.
I had put up so many walls and tried to construct so many barriers that who I truly am was locked away and very much alone amongst SO MUCH CONNECTION.
It was when I made the choice to regard my sensitivities as a gift that my life dramatically shifted. I began seeking out information about this gift and learning techniques to open up and allow feelings to come to me and, instead of absorbing and taking them on as my own, I learned to allow them to pass through me.
I was no longer a conductor, increasing the pain and suffering.
I became a carrier solution.
I started allowing what others felt to move through me, dissolve, weaken and dissipate.
When I truly harnessed my gift, I found myself becoming the inspiration for others to choose their positive focus and shift their perception.
That’s where I find myself today.

My gift is a superpower.

It allows others to feel heard and accepted and to have ease in what they are dealing with so it seems possible to manage.

It allows healing and each to experience himself or herself as the graceful, powerful and immensely loving and connected human they are.

I designed Project: Love, Me when I saw that my shift in perspective created an opening for me to truly and open heartedly FEEL.
I saw that allowing myself to WANT to be as sensitive as I am gave me the ability to encourage, honor and nurture positive and loving feelings and realities for other.

That realization was when I got my purpose.

I got how important it is for me to love and care for myself and make sure I was skilled in my abilities because I’m here to make a powerful impact in healing the world.

Project: Love, Me is a space for me to share insight and wisdom to support each of you to open your hearts and express how you feel.
It is a space to share what it takes to stand on your own two feet and demand the love and support that is your right as a human.
I say that because my gift has me aware of how necessary that is.
It is our right to be seen.
Deep down we all get that we have that right. What we don’t get it that we do not have to accept anything less. Each of us is no more than a mirror of the next. Whomever you want to see and honor you, wants exactly that in return.
In demanding that for yourself, you give others the opportunity to make those demands for themselves.
It DOES start with you.
Getting clear on what you want and demanding it for yourself and your life has all that isn’t what you want fall away.
When those unwantables fall away, a crater is left to be filled with your desires. You become a dissolver of the negative and a conductor of the positive.

And when you realize that for yourself, you get to pay it forward too.

So, how do you do that?

These 6 guidelines are absolutely everything you need to have that shift.

1. Get that where you are is exactly where you’re supposed to be (be grateful for that).
2. Love your body. Shower it with compliments. Learn how strong and sexy it is.
3. Always do what you truly want to do.  The clearest indication you’re doing what you want to do = Life Is Fun. If you’re not having fun, change your atmosphere, your company and your need to please. This is YOUR life.
4. Be open hearted and share EVERYTHING. It connects you to those who get you and has those who don’t get you get out of your way.
5. Take in, absorb, feed off of and invite all that serves and enlivens you.
6. Trust yourself, your heart and your soul. Trust your thoughts, your feelings, your desires and your questions. Trust every last, ever expanding drop of YOU. 

Six behavior changes seems minimal. Believe me, it isn’t. You have to be seriously committed to each of these ideals to breakthrough and remove the obstacles in the way of you realizing your own self worth.

And, there’s no time like the present to get started.

❤️, me

I am Aphrodite

Take on your inspiration.
Yes, take it on.

Live in the space that you ARE what you’re inspired by.
In doing what it takes to honor my inner light and let it shine shine shine to allow for you to honor yours, I made the practice of taking on my inspiration a must. It is absolutely necessary that I am Aphrodite.

I’ve shared here with you what that process looked like while I deconstructed what was in my way.
Remember Kali?

Well, I’m still Kali too.
I’m still destructing anything that isn’t love.
I’m still going into battle to remove everything that doesn’t serve the loving being that I am.

And it’s great.
Dare I say, it’s even become fun…even in the moments when I stop and say, “people might think you’re a little crazy right now”.

Yeah, they might.

Let them
Let them go around saying that and staying in their space where they use “crazy” to describe pessimism, regret, and resentment. They’ll get where they need to to see what’s possible and when they chiles to accept and to forgive.
However that happens for them…not my business.

I’m in the business of love.

So I took on a new goddess of inspiration.

Enter Aphrodite.

Aphrodite is the goddess of love, beauty, pleasure and procreation.
She is love love love…all the time love. She even loved when Zeus had her marry ugly, disfigured and disempowered Hephaestus.
Zeus was so afraid of her beauty he tried to pair her off with a man who he didn’t see as a threat. He thought, “There is no way she’s going to keep being love and beauty and pleasure and baby making with that guy.”
Boy was he wrong.
Zeus…the king of the gods was AFRAID a of how powerful her love was.
Rightfully so, because love is the most powerful force ever created and Zeus had an agenda. He wanted to be the “it” god. He didn’t want a woman coming in there, taking over.
Zeus saw a threat because he didn’t trust his power and he didn’t love himself.
So, what happened?
Zeus self fulfilled that goddess fearing prophecy.
Hephaestus was so grateful for Aphrodite’s love that he showered her with everything she ever asked for and, he saw that one of those things was sharing her love. He encouraged and supported Aphrodite to spread her love and enjoy many lovers and, make a million love-filled baby gods and goddesses.
And you know what?
Some of those lovers Aphrodite enjoyed were humans and from that, Aphrodite gave the godly power of love to the human race.

Take that Zeus.

And thanks! That’s what you created. Out of godly fear, love was possible in this world.

Way to go Aphrodite.
That’s some real love.
No matter what, Aphrodite is so full of love that she is love. She gives it away and that giving empowers it further. She gives it to others to continue the giving and continue healing all the places we create that love just isn’t present.
She can’t be stopped.
She’s eternal and she created the cycle of love eternal here on earth.

It’s a silly story that this world is missing love. Love is just hiding behind fear.
And that fear is self created simply because some people have NO idea what it’s like to experience full-on, hardcore, love, appreciation, acceptance and forgiveness.

And when they figure out that what they don’t know is the key to everything, well, come on…you know what’s next. They turn the key.

Taking on the inspiration of Aphrodite lets me share here and everywhere what it looks like and feels like to be love.
To accept everything and anything as it is and as it is not.
To create in every scenario.
To let go of how it’s been or how it can’t be.
To love from the place that anything is possible and the partnerships and communities we create in our lives make all of that effortless.

Taking on Aphrodite is like starting a pandemic of love.

Yeah.

That’s pretty awesome.

And Zeus will show up.
He’s not using his love power though so, you’ll notice him less and less.
And then, one day, Zeus will even give in and start loving the hell out of Everything.
It’s that simple.

And while you’re transitioning into being love, keep Kali around. She’ll destroy that stuff that would allow you to see Zeus’ fear as the reason you didn’t.
Those aren’t your fears.
You are fearless.

Because love is fearless and you and I are Aphrodite, goddess of love.

❤️, me

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There ain’t nothing authentic about being nice

Nice.
Three words in response to being nice:

Knock. It. Off.

Nice had a slimy connotation. It goes right along with the experience of being taken advantage of.
When you’re “nice”, you’re allowing for, excusing and, frankly, enabling irresponsibility.

Nice people forgive those who don’t show up.
Something is missing here.
Forgiving is great.
By all means, absolutely, forgive
AND THEN
ask Mr No Show what happened. Let him know how it effects you and everyone else he doesn’t show up for and, from that, what that does or doesn’t do for HIM.

Nice people do everything in their human power to make sure everyone else is taken care of, needs fulfilled, coddled and accepted, no matter what behavior comes about and when they’re really nice, this type of free giving often comes at their own expense.

Nice people don’t think they themselves are important enough and this taking care is what has others like them.

Yes, that’s right. All the nice kitties out there want to be liked. It’s not really who you are. It’s who you think you need to be. Underneath that, you’re resentful.

So, what’s missing for little miss nice…

kindness + ruthless compassion.

Being kind is being supportive, listening, standing for someone to have whatever realization they need to step into the next space in their life.
It has nothing to do with doing it for them.

AND

It definitely has nothing to do with excusing that they aren’t doing what it takes for themselves.

Being kind is telling it like it is, holding another accountable and backing up and getting out of the way so people can hit the wall and have what’s necessary happen that’ll have them get how little their not so great way serves them.

Being kind is creating, creating, creating. It’s NOT listening to sob stories and excuses. It’s being there to have things move in a new direction or asking another to go figure that out while you move in that direction, alone.

It takes A LOT to shift from nice to kind.

Nice people are typically known for their niceness. (This is not a beneficial knowing). Those who take advantage of nice, nice, nice get a bit ruffled when they can’t depend on you to do things for them anymore.

They’ll survive.

And your nice little head will likely feel guilty or bad or all sorts of negative feelings as you embark on the adventure from nice and used up to kind and appreciated.

And the ship to sail from A to B is that ruthless compassion.

You gotta be down and dirty about how much you care.

You gotta let people know that they’ll get its for the best that you aren’t doing it for them.
And being ruthless about it lets you sigh and support and be kind, not just to them, but to yourself.

❤️, me

On being with yourself

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I used to hate being with myself. I used to fill my time with busy chores, must-dos, and overextended schedules.  I was absolutely addicted to “getting there”.  I’d wake up before dawn, drag myself through work and then exercise until i felt faint.  I’d then rush home to fix something, start in on a new idea on how I could make it better or how I could have more time to be with others or hear about what was going on or just talk to someone.  I fantasized about a life where I could be successful and have everything I wanted.

I didn’t date.

I avoided friends, family and social outings.

I ducked my head down and barreled through.  I got on the train with my headphones playing some sort of inspirational or instructional podcast for success and leadership and, pretty much, being awesome.

In my head it was all to “get there”.  In reality it was all to get as far away as possible from myself.

When I took on Project: Love, Me, I made a list of the things I wanted to be doing and the places I wanted to be.  I decided that this list was not to be in the vein of success.

Instead, it was to be in the vein of feeling at peace, accepted, loved, heard, and enlivened – all the feelings that seemed so fleeting or even nonexistent, at the time.

I sat down to make the list and, for probably the first time in my nervous energy-filled adult life, I had nothing to write.  My mind was blank.

And I realized all this doing had me completely disconnected from myself.

I had no idea what Rachel wanted.

I had every idea what Rachel “should” want based on my guilt and my wanting to escape how embarrassed I was by my failures.  I had every idea what Rachel “could” want if…

If I were rich.
If I were interesting.
If I were inviting and beautiful and savvy and successful.

And then I realized how those “shoulds” and “coulds” sounded to ME.

I was relating to myself as if who I was was the person I’d been, before I’d acknowledged I’d messed up or failed or started feeling guilty.

I was relating to a person I’d put to rest long ago.

That’s when I actually started hearing what all the teaching and training and reading I’d done to find “it” really meant by living in the present.

I started hearing what is was to be with myself now…and now…and now.

Three completely different moments, each allowing for any version of Rachel I wanted to be in each of them…each it’s own existence.

Each of those moments was a fleeting time to choose now.

Each of those moments was an opportunity.

So, I started focusing.

And by focusing I mean, training my attention to be sharp as a laser.

“Checking in” became a major practice.

Sitting on the train, in the middle of a conversation, while reading, while writing, while just sitting and staring.

Am I thinking?  Am I judging?  Am I reacting?  Am I here…now?

And I started connecting the dots.  I started getting why I was so nervous to get ahead.  I started noticing how insecure and unhappy I was being with me.

Who wouldn’t be nervous and insecure about being with a version of myself that dissipated forever ago?

I was avoiding hanging with a ghost.

A woman who got it right all the time.

A woman who was defensive and assertive to protect a broken heart.

A woman who was fighting day in and day out to get away from her day to day.

All I wanted around me was love and peace and creativity and an easy breezy dreamy space of living and breathing and contributing and truly being where I was at any given time.

I felt lonely because who I truly am was locked away, alone.

She was alone because I wouldn’t let her come out and be.

On that thought, I really started making a list.

What does Rachel want?

To be free.
To be openhearted.
To be radically self-expressed.
To be connected.
To be at peace.
To be love.

So, if Rachel is going to be free, openhearted, radically self-expressed, connected, at peace, and pretty much the human incarnation of love…what does she do?

She clears her schedule and then finds things to fill it with that excite her.
She works with clients that inspire her and connect with her and grow their own wings.
She falls in love.
She builds community.
She shows up when she’s requested and supports when it’s wanted.
She dances until her heart is pumping, the tears have fallen and she’s tingling.  She’s filled with light.
She goes to the people who want to feel like she wants to feel.  She lets go of those who want to stay lonely.  She eases her way into being able to say “I don’t feel comfortable and I still want to stay” and, it’s received.
She looks in the mirror and really sees herself.  Long and hard, until all of the “you should”, “you could”, “you would have ifs…” dissipate and it’s just she and herself spending time TOGETHER.

The truth is, we’re never alone.

We are always with our closest company.
We are always with our most understanding, supportive and nurturing companion.

It’s when we choose to neglect ourselves that we feel lonely.

It’s a beautiful practice being alone.

The better you become with you, the better you are with any and everybody else.

While you’re out there doing whatever you end up doing, you can always hold your own hand, soothe your own heart and stir up what ever you and yourself want to create.

And, you get to practice, every moment, every day.

Love, Me